Stories Autism Parents Tell
goldenheartedrose:

fullelvencastiel:

goldenheartedrose:

sleoin:

A little Autism piece. #autism #support #foot #tattoo #puzzle #piece

Gross.
Autistic people aren’t missing pieces.

"Until the pieces fit" is a really disturbing thing to put toward people anyways. Like, thinking about that in literal terms of a puzzle. Every piece has it’s place. Nothing changes that. I mean, unless a younger sibling or something rips part of one off, all those pieces constantly have their place. But the phrasing of “Until the pieces fit” gives me the mental image of forcing pieces that were never meant to go together into spaces far too small or big for them, and then going ‘whoop, they fit now.’ Or even cutting them with scissors or gluing shit, just to make them fit like a ‘normal’ puzzle.And I’m sure that’s how Autism Speaks thinks about autistic people. Just keep trying to force them into a ‘normal’ sort of form, that their brains simply aren’t wired for. They advocate forcing and changing them in ways that are not even remotely pleasant (and many of which do not work, or are damaging) to try to get them to fix into this perfect little box of their standards. Make them pass for normal in society, rather than make the world more accessible to them. Your tattoo is yuck all over the place. 

This. All of this.

goldenheartedrose:

fullelvencastiel:

goldenheartedrose:

sleoin:

A little Autism piece. #autism #support #foot #tattoo #puzzle #piece

Gross.

Autistic people aren’t missing pieces.

"Until the pieces fit" is a really disturbing thing to put toward people anyways. Like, thinking about that in literal terms of a puzzle. Every piece has it’s place. Nothing changes that. I mean, unless a younger sibling or something rips part of one off, all those pieces constantly have their place. 

But the phrasing of “Until the pieces fit” gives me the mental image of forcing pieces that were never meant to go together into spaces far too small or big for them, and then going ‘whoop, they fit now.’ Or even cutting them with scissors or gluing shit, just to make them fit like a ‘normal’ puzzle.

And I’m sure that’s how Autism Speaks thinks about autistic people. Just keep trying to force them into a ‘normal’ sort of form, that their brains simply aren’t wired for. They advocate forcing and changing them in ways that are not even remotely pleasant (and many of which do not work, or are damaging) to try to get them to fix into this perfect little box of their standards. Make them pass for normal in society, rather than make the world more accessible to them. 

Your tattoo is yuck all over the place. 

This. All of this.

goldenheartedrose:

Just for the record? Ableist friends and family members hurt more than ableist strangers.

autisticeagle:

There’s a poll asking if you object to an ad calling Autism a disease, and saying it should be wiped out. The majority says “no.” 

Please go vote and share the opinion of actual autistics.

Something that was actually said to me

Me: *discussing PDD-NOS with my mother before the visit that determined that her oldest son has autism, as that was something that was being considered prior to*
Someone overhearing us who had their child there for an appointment as well: Why don’t you just let them diagnose him as autistic? You’ll get more benefits from the government if you do, and it’s practically the same anyways…
Me: *chooses not to dignify that with a response*

The tone that the woman took when she said “let them diagnose him as autistic” suggested that she wanted me to fudge the information that I gave to the child psychologist to get his diagnosis… bumped over to autism.

It saddens me that people do this.

Submitted by: isomer

Mod note: While not something a PARENT has said, it's just as bad, if not worse, for teachers and other authority figures to disregard the handicaps and disabilities of their students and those under them, and is often illegal. If this happens to you, find out how to report it, and do so if you're able.)
Me: "I don't raise my hand in class because every time I have spoken since I started college, everyone has laughed at me. If you call on me, I will freeze even if I know the answer because I have problems with social anxiety due to being bullied all throughout grade school, too."
Professor: "You still have to participate in class or you get an F for participation."
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child's therapist: your child has a mental disorder
parent: i'm supportive, understanding, and loving. i will do all i can to help my child.
child: i can't do this because my disorder makes it very hard.
parent: you're lazy
parent: you're immature
parent: get over it it's not that big of a deal
parent: grow up
parent: don't tell anyone about your disorder you should be ashamed of it
child: i'm insulted and i think your comments are abusive
parent: i've done nothing but support you with this!!!!
It saddens me that they had to put this sign up at my kids’ therapy office

What the sign basically said:
Watch your children.
Please talk in a respectful manner that promotes help and learning.

What the sign really said:
Parent your children.
Respect your children’s special needs.
Use common sense.

Yes, they actually had to put up a giant two-sided sign at the entrance to the facility telling parents these things.

I’m sad now.

I started university a few months ago; some people there know I have Asperger's and some don't. So far, nobody's mentioned my tiptoeing AT ALL, nobody's laughed if I didn't understand their sarcasm, and nobody's pressured me into nightclubs and/or alcohol. I tend to scream involuntarily at sudden loud noises; this must seem odd, but nobody's told me NOT to do it. All this seemed unusual to me. It's made me realise that I shouldn't have to put up with certain put-downs by my loved ones at home.
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